Miranda Kerr’s 7 Rules For Adulthood


There’s getting older (inevitable), and actually growing up (…evitable). Supposedly the idea is to do the two in unison, but life is sort of like assembling Scandinavian furniture with no instructions—some people get along just fine while others are left lying there sort of sweaty, staring up at the ceiling from the floor of their living room. Miranda Kerr is the first kind of person: supermodel, mom, businesswoman, self-help author, and most recently, star of 7 For All Mankind's fall campaign. For everyone on the other end of the spectrum, her seven tips on successfully entering the adult world:

“This is interesting because I've never thought of myself as an ‘adult'—I think of myself as a mom and a businesswoman. I have a free spirit, but I’ve realized since I had my son that I have to be organized. We’re living such fast-paced lives that if I don’t plan and prioritize even just an hour between jobs to be with my son and paint and draw or go to the park, it doesn’t get done. I even schedule calls to my grandma because otherwise time just goes by. Put all of those little things into your calendar and that way you don’t have to stress about it. You get an alert on your phone that says ‘Call mom!’ and it will just take five minutes to make her happy and to make yourself feel connected.

I like to pray and I like to meditate. Doing just three minutes of prayer and a minimum of five minutes meditation twice a day sets the tone—like an arrow so that you’re hitting your target. When I pray I always thank Mother Nature for all the beauty in the world; it’s about having an attitude of gratitude. And then I pray to Christ to say, 'Thank you for this day and my family and my health,' and now that I'm older I’ve added, ‘Please illuminate me. Please open my heart chakra. Open my aperture and uplift my consciousness so that I can be the best version of myself.’

The power of forgiveness is very important as well. We’re all humans and we all make mistakes—even little things like looking at someone the wrong way, or snapping at someone. But forgiving yourself and asking for forgiveness from the person creates an energy shift. It’s another thing I pray for—‘Please forgive me if I have said anything to anyone that has hurt someone. Please allow them to forgive me and allow me to forgive myself.’ Even those that we find challenging to be around are sometimes the people that need the prayers the most. If you’ve had an intense conversation with someone, a good thing to do would be to say to them, ‘I forgive you, and please forgive me.’ We all say things sometimes to hurt people, so it’s important to forgive and have peace with others and forgive and be at peace with yourself.

I always pack my shake and my lunch to get ready for work because you never know what you’re going to get when you’re on a photo shoot, or anywhere for that matter. Health is wealth, so be organized. I’ve got my shake with me now—it smells so bad. It has all of my vitamins in there, which I like better than just taking them separately. I mix up açaí powder, real cacao, maca powder, chia seeds, goji berries, as well as all the vitamins, and down it goes...

I’m learning about business and money management. I have a budget, even for flowers, because I love flowers and sometimes I spend too much money on them. Looking at my expenses, I was like, ‘Wow, obviously I’m spending way too much money on flowers and massages and acupuncture. I need to cut back.’ Now I have personal care budget, and one for clothing, things like that. I’m a perfectionist and I like to have my nails done, but sometimes I will do them myself instead. It’s about discipline—you have to be on top of things like that.

David Hawkins was a philosopher that developed a map of the levels of human consciousness called the Scale of Consciousness. At the bottom he has ‘guilt,’ which has a vibration of around 30, meaning it’s the worst kind of feeling. Apathy, grief, fear, and even desire, anger, and pride are below the level of integrity. Above that—and this is where people become better versions of themselves—you’ve got courage, neutrality, willingness, acceptance, reason, love, which is at 500, joy, and then peace and enlightenment. In his book, Power vs. Force, he talks about disease, which is dis-ease—not being comfortable—and happens in the lower states of mind. Being human you can’t escape these emotions, but what he says is when you feel anger or guilt or fear or whatnot, let yourself ride that emotion, not dwell in it. Ride it, feel it out, and then choose something else—because you have a choice.

People don’t even realize the power the mind has over the body in the way you perceive things. Change your thoughts, change your reality. Words are powerful—every thought and every word we think has an effect on the body. So you can be like, ‘Ugh, I can’t believe it’s raining outside,’ or you can be like, ‘We really needed that rain, it’s going to be so much clearer and brighter tomorrow.’ It’s not about being delusional, but just changing your perspective and understanding that there is a positive and a negative to every situation. I do this thing—jumping for joy. I want to start a ‘jumping for joy’ movement. If you're in a bad mood all you do is just jump up and down and think of everything you’re grateful for.

I love having fun. I love to dance and having people over for dinner. I’m quite a larrikin [laughs]—that’s someone who’s always cracking jokes and being silly. People don’t necessarily always see that side of me, but I’m a little bit of a jokester. My son is the same, he’s so full of joy. Having a child kind of brings you back to experiencing life with a childlike view, like, ‘Oh wow, this is new and exciting!’ The wonderment and the enthusiasm that they have for life is something that inspires me everyday. Anyway, back to being an adult…”

—as told to ITG

Miranda Kerr, wearing 7 For All Mankind FW14, photographed by Tom Newton in New York. See her in action in 7 For All Mankind’s fall campaign film.

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  • Alice

    Love, love these tips and Miranda! :) <3

  • Bonnie Garner

    I knew it...I should stop going to the hair salon every day, it's about discipline.

  • Annika

    I definitely needed to be reminded to be more positive! Thanks :)

  • beeswaxnoneofyour

    I don't think I should wish for my aperture to be opened. I'd probably just stick more cake in it. My snark chakra could probably do with minimizing though.

    • Eleanor Rigby

      Made my day.

  • IntoTheGloss

    Gosh I really love Miranda Kerr.

  • tera

    Gwyneth Jr.

    • irisflower

      sometimes she does her nails herself! what a woman of the people.

      • chris

        ... and she cut in flowers and massages, a true lesson of courage.

    • lucky

      she and I both forgive you for that comment

  • http://www.atdorsia.com/ Eliza

    Um, can we have a breakdown of what is going on on her face??! FLAWLESS makeup.

  • Haiku Jew

    My adulthood rule:
    do unto others or else
    expect solitude.

  • jadiee bevan


  • Debbie

    Love her. I agree need a top shelf on her makeup.

  • Ana

    Benefit a great deal!!! BTW, i love Miranda! <3

  • Le Bazhaar

    Really like Miranda!

  • Lilli

    I'm pretty sure she just made me book a week long yoga & meditation trip to Indonesia

  • Mady

    This article is marketing genius

  • http://inspiringwit.com/ Jenelle Witty

    She does have some beautiful things to say. Those photos are amazing of course. It is nice to see someone else realises they spend too much on flowers. Great advice.

  • AsphodelJones

    Stick to modeling, pumpkin.

  • http://emiliashea.blogspot.com/ Emily Shea

    So, definitely not the personality I expected from her! Interesting advice though.

  • thunderlegz

    Gosh, she is so lovely-not just a pretty face. Love to see her here!

  • Kiki

    How can this advice not work for everyone?

  • thunderlegz

    Can someone help me with her shake? I see this : "açaí powder, real cacao, maca powder, chia seeds, goji berries"…what else would go well with this? Im trying to game my brain so I'm better at life and protect my pasty pasty wrinkle prone skin from further food related damage.

    ITG does a great job about "food as medicine"-could ya give Hannah Bronfman a holler and get some more words on this matter?

    • kathS

      I think she also uses coconut milk and a greens powder - seen in a
      different interview (a video interview on net-a-porter, google if you
      are interested). If I was making this smoothie I would def add half an
      avocado - smoothies without avocado make me sad.

    • softy

      add a frozen banana - it gives great texture. you should also try spirulina - cedella marley apparently uses it and she has the skin of someone half her age.

  • kathS

    I find myself identifying with the positive and negative commenters. I think that her advice is really good authentic advice, but then its kind of like why does Miranda Kerr need to remind herself to be happy!?

    Oh well, I still like her, and her advice, and the Gwyneth Jr. comments still make me laugh.

    • Cecilia

      Well put. Agree completely.

    • Mimi

      I agree. I also identify myself with positive and negative comments. But when I try to avoid being too sarcastic and cynical, i.e. my usual self, her advice contains some good thoughts about being happy in life. I particularly like the part about fighting negative emotions. And after all, happiness is an internal state of mind rather than the influence of external factors unless something tragic happens in our lives. At least it is true for me. I have been both, cut short of funds and living very comfortable in financial matters (lately), and I had periods of dissatisfaction with my life and unhappiness both times. I am saying that unhappy person will find a reason to fret about other than lack of money. It is a common saying where I live that the rich also cry. But it is true that with money it is easier to fight it, as you can indulge yourself with massages, great vacations, new experiences, sports (the latter are ridiculously pricey where I live), etc., that give you a new source of energy and positive thinking despite the circumstances.

      Sorry for my English if there are some mistakes. I am not a native speaker.

  • Tamsin Wong

    another reason I love Miranda...aside from being beautiful of course a lot of what she says is thoughtful and valuable. People are quick to try and be snarky but choosing/understanding your emotions and embracing positive energies are really important and beneficial to every person...even if it is just common sense what she's stated is valid!

  • Abigail I WhateverWild

    Love this!!

  • http://www.atdorsia.com/ Eliza

    Hey, it's not easy to do Blue Steel all day!

  • jett

    I think its about how grown people already know to have fun, call your grandma and eat well. If we do it or not is another story. Little models giving this kind of advice like they just met the guru, is amusing. Tell us instead where you got that glow, honey!

  • Kiki

    I wasn't being sarcastic.

    • Averill B

      And that's why meditation helps when times are tough.

  • Lili

    Wow what insightful, sensible advice. I love it!

  • Averill B

    Saying "like why does Miranda Kerr need to remind herself to bee happy" is completely missing the point of the advice in #6.

  • Averill B

    Yes, when your net worth is $20 mill it is a conscious effort to cut out manicures and flower arrangements from your budget, BUT I think each tip can apply to anyone's life despite their socio-economic situation. The comments are getting a little sassy. Let's re-summarize:

    These are 7 Rules for Adulthood and I know many adults who skip over tip #1: plan everything (even if it's a call to your grandma) and their business and personal lives suffer because of disorganization.
    #2 mediation, if practiced correctly, can positively impact your life and the peacefulness you acquire in those 5 minutes of silence is carried with you throughout the day---so yes #2 is good advice.
    #3-don't hold grudges #4 live a healthy lifestyle #5 budget your life #6 choose your emotions #7 be joyful always.....
    Yea, those tips really beg for snide remarks.

    • Tatiana Depetris

      It's not what she says, it's how: "David Hawkins was a philosopher that developed a map of the levels of human consciousness called the Scale of Consciousness. At the bottom he has ‘guilt,’ which has a vibration of around 30" (?????!!!).
      Do we really need to know the level of vibration (whatever that is) to know that guilt is bad for you??

      I find most of what she says incredible obvious (bad feelings are bad for you!) and, at the same time, a bit vague-new-agey.

  • lucky

    actually one of her tips is: "when you feel anger or guilt or fear or whatnot, let yourself ride that
    emotion, not dwell in it. Ride it, feel it out, and then choose
    something else"

    so I just don't think you're actually trying to HEAR her right now.

    • http://covenlosangeles.tumblr.com Luna

      I logged in(the comment you replied to is mine, I just got an account the other day) - what you are saying is correct, and I do hear her. I think I tend to immediately resort to an eyeroll when I hear things that I find delusional or condescending.

  • lucky

    I sometimes can barely afford groceries and yet somehow still understand that rich people have problems too. Commenters wanna be grumpy.

  • guest

    lol. does it make the haters feel better to bash her when all she did was be positive and share her thoughts on things? i found that helpful, tyvm itg and miranda.

    • http://covenlosangeles.tumblr.com Luna

      There's this weird phenomenon online lately that if you have a different opinion then you are "negative" and "a hater..."

  • http://callherkb.wordpress.com CallHerKB

    This was a great article. I really enjoyed the praying and forgiveness parts. I'm working on that myself as an adult.

  • Sydney

    ITG PLEASE do an update top shelf on her! No one gives advice quite like miranda kerr. Best beauty and health tips ever!!