In The Eyelid Of The Beholder


In a lifetime full of harrowing uncertainty, it’s important to have certain constants to stay sane. For me, that means a steady supply of cold lime seltzer, pizza in bed on Wednesdays, and a little glass pot of black eyeliner—MAC Fluidline in Blacktrack. Every morning, I grab an angled brush and paint a thick line across my top lid, following the natural curve until the outer edge, where I flick it down to connect to the bottom. The end result is a dark, sharp angle, shaped like a bird’s wing that completely surrounds the eye. I’ve done this every day, without fail, for the past 10 years.

My fixation began in sixth grade, when my classmates first started wearing makeup to school. There was one look in particular that caught on quickly: Violet pencil liner, deep purple shadow on the lid, and a lilac shimmer along the crease and lower lash line. I thought it was the chicest thing, and tried to copy the look by sweeping the shadow along the "crease." Having no idea what a crease was, I applied the eye shadow in a thin line along my lashes, over and over again, but it made no difference. The shadow still appeared, too shiny and too obvious, on my single eyelid.

Before blogs, makeup tips and tutorials did not cater to different eyelid shapes in the US. Even today, the issue of the eyelid is often swept aside by beauty bloggers like Michelle Phan, who like to remind people that Asian eyelids come in all different types. That may be true—my mom and sister were both born with double eyelids—but it’s unhelpful to us single-lidded girls, who must go it alone.

Over in Asia, the eyelid has been an issue for years. The world is familiar with South Korea’s status as a plastic surgery capital of the world, with nearly 650,000 procedures performed in 2011. And for those unwilling to pay big, there are countless beauty products, like double-sided eyelid tape, to create a temporary crease. Really, those are your options. Needless to say, I developed an difficult relationship with my poor, unloved lids.

It took years of trial and embarrassing error (iridescent navy shadow, summer 2005) to find my liner look. It may be no substitute for, you know, plastic surgery, but the heavy black liner draws attention to my eyes in a way that makes them pop. I never once received compliments on my eyes until I started wearing it.

I will admit: It can be exhausting to feel so tied to a product. Although I’ve always been against the cultural pressure towards plastic surgery, my eyeliner addiction was really saying the same thing—that single eyelids alone cannot be beautiful.

Then came Liu Wen. Finally, a stunning, high profile model with a single eyelid, who hadn’t had surgery to change it. I practically sobbed with joy when I saw her in Vogue for the first time. Soon they were everywhere: Hyoni Kang, Soo Joo Park, Xiao Wen Ju. Their influence was even felt overseas, where on a recent trip to Seoul, I found a growing support for natural beauty, driven by untouched idols like Park and Yuna Kim. Many people find the fashion industry to be an alienating one, one that promotes a single, almost unattainable idea of beauty. But in many ways, I’ve found that fashion has helped me embrace beauty that is so different from the norm. And so it was with my eyelids.

So, I’ve started shifting towards a more naked eye look. Not completely, I’m not there yet. But these days, I prefer to go out with a coat of DiorShow Iconic Mascara, Innisfree Brow Pencil, and a hint of Chanel Stylo Yeux Eyeliner smudged along the bottom lashes, as though I’ve slept in it. And, in the interest of full disclosure, I now find that I look prettiest with my freshly washed, makeup-free face. I think that’s called progress.

—Monica Kim

Photos via, Lurve Magazine, and CR Fashion Book.

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  • Maria Andrea

    It's kind of funny how a lot of us started out around middle school with the make up craze; I remember spending almost an hour in front of the mirror every morning back then. I kind of cringe to think about that now; I've also been in that transition process, feeling so much better with a fresh face and minimal make up. It feels like a lot of girls and women are going through that same transition...not only is it about self acceptance and confidence in how we look naturally, but we get to sleep in a little longer! Two very awesome things :) Thanks for the post!

    • Monica Kim

      Completely agree. I used to pile on MAC cream foundation AND tinted powder, back when I had the best skin of my life. Such a waste!

    • Eliza

      Ugh in middle school I had a Caboodles case full of the cheapest, brightest makeup on Earth--and, unfortunately, I was not afraid to use it.

  • Jenny W

    I felt the same way in high school. The eyeliner just got thicker and thicker but nothing really changed. I finally gave up and just used false eyelashes instead since the liner would gunk up by the end of the day and travel giving me raccoon eyes. But I'm glad that single lid girls are more mainstream now!

    • Monica Kim

      I never tried false eyelashes (too lazy), but am very intrigued by lash extensions... Stay tuned.

      • Kristy

        I'm not quite sure why this bothers me, but it does that in the comments you have stated not once, but three times that you haven't done something because you are too lazy. I don't know, I guess it comes off as humble-braggy rather than honest on a beauty blog to state that you are "lazy" that many times, especially as a writer of said blog, when experimentation is expected.

        Anyways I guess my gripe is, while those things may be tedious, pure laziness probably isn't the reason you haven't done those things. While there's all different types of beauty routines out there, I'd assume as a beauty writer you've at least *experimented* with, if not possess! some sort of tedious beauty practice.

        • Monica Kim

          Hi Kristy. Good point! I actually haven't experimented with as many beauty practices as you might expect, since I did not start writing about beauty until quite recently. (I'm also fairly sure I only said I was too lazy to try two things, false eyelashes and eyelid tape, and it's 100 percent true for both. I find both products to be very intimidating.)

          As I start to write more, however, I'll be happy to try lots of new things, no matter how difficult they may be. I was definitely not trying to humble brag, but was being honest about my past eyelid experiences. As for my own tedious beauty practice, you can read about it in the essay above: My daily eyeliner look is a massive pain!

  • jenn

    I completely relate to this article. It took me several years to find the right eyeliner look that worked for me (cat winged eyeliner, which in itself is difficult to perfect), and I never left my house without it. Until only a couple of weeks ago when I ditched it and felt more comfortable to accentuate my "Asian" eyes with softer eyeliner. It's been liberating since. Thanks for this!!

    • Monica Kim

      It really is, isn't it? I love thick, winged eyeliner, but it's so much work for an everyday look. Kudos on ditching it!

  • Joelle

    What about the opposite, too much eyelid (bulging eyes) ?

  • Salina

    I, too, am very familiar with MAC Fluidline in Blacktrack. From senior year of high school to sophomore year of college, my eyeliner just got thicker and thicker. I thought it made my Asian eyes look bigger because the liner "added more to it." But along the way, I got tired of how heavy it looked and now my eye makeup consists of Burberry eyeshadow in Midnight Brown and mascara (always waterproof to keep those lashes curled). And if I'm feeling a little adventurous, I'll tightline with a black pencil liner.

    • Monica Kim

      Confession: I still don't know how to wear eyeshadow. Tell me your secrets.

  • Daph

    Look at ads, campaigns, runways, models and actresses. Out of hundreds, how many are Asian? When the standard of beauty hinges around a certain race/ethnicity, can you blame average Asian girls (who are not even models like Liu Wen or Soo Joo) for feeling insecure and unhappy with their body?

    • cake

      As a Chinese I gotta say though it mostly has little to do with the fact that "high fashion" is full of white models (that's another problem). If you read ancient Chinese texts big eyes have always been held as a beauty standard long before the West made a blip on its radar, and that's probably the case for nearby countries in the region as well. In fact how an "Asian" eyelid creases, is different from how a "Caucasian" eyelid creases (and it looks different). Also, most of the Chinese women i know find runway models such as Liu Wen unattractive (you can find a lot of these comments on the internet as well). My point is people are quite misguided when they assume that insecurity stems from wanting to emulate "white people", when it's really not the case, and saying that would actually be ignoring Asia's culture and history .

      • Daph

        I am Asian myself, and I pointed out that today's world of fashion and beauty hinges around a certain ethnicity (white). Traits regarded as beautiful are often traits associated with white models - tall, long legs, good proportions, small face, big eyes, white skin, etc. It's a statement and I think that's evident if you look at magazines, models, retailers, designers. Asians are mostly consumers (China, HK, Taiwan, Korea, Japan??), Europeans/Americans are both consumers/creators (designers, photographers, stylist). Just because I pointed this out doesn't make me insensitive to Asian heritage or culture.

        • Aina

          Daph, when did these traits become associated with white models? They've been around in all sorts of places ever since the fertility-figure look went out of fashion. Look around in the Ramayana and you'll find that pale, large-eyed and slim was considered beautiful in classical India; you'll see beauties described the same way in Journey to the West, Dream of the Red Chamber, various stories of the Arabian Nights, Tibetan fairy tales, Greek myths and various works from the Heian era in Japan. I think this standard is 'universal' mostly because it's so general. After all, there are variations on it: in Iran they liked connected eyebrows, straight hair in Japan and small breasts in China. During Tang China the ideal silhouette was fuller, but having white skin was still an ideal. I don't know about sub-Saharan Africa, but I'm willing to guess that many societies also liked their women tall and slim.
          My point is that models didn't create the beauty standards we have today. Rather, they embody it, and maybe mass media makes beauty seem more important than it used to be (I'll leave this questions to others who are better at it).
          Also, pleasing proportions is a given for all beauties. The proportions themselves differ, so saying that "good proportions" is a trait associated with white models is confusing.

      • Monica Kim

        Yes, I think it's a common misconception that the Asian beauty ideal is based on the Caucasian one. Each culture has its own unique history, of course, that helps shape such things.

  • Theresa Won

    LOVE this article! Thank you for such a direct, eye-opening (ha) approach to an issue that very much is still swept aside. I grew up being teased about my eyes, but have never once felt that plastic surgery was the solution, choosing instead to work with what I have. It's time more Asians and other single-lidded individuals start embracing their natural beauty and not cave in to restrictive beauty standards that aren't real!

  • Clever Girl Reviews

    While I think it's a very personal choice to have surgery or not, I have a male friend from Japan who had it done and it was botched in process. His family forced him to get it done as a teen and now he has one droopy eye. He's been putting off corrective surgery out of fear. He is a father and he's already getting pressure from his parents for his two little girls and they aren't even in grade school yet!

    • Eliza

      That's so sad :( No one should feel like surgery is a necessity--like you said, it should be a personal decision, made on your own as an adult.

  • coco

    As a half-Asian, half-Caucasian gal, my eyelid 'creases' shift all the time so sometimes eyelid tape (on one eye!) is just a matter of trying for symmetry. I wouldn't care if my eyelids were monolid or more 'western' - I just want them to be even!!

    • charmystique

      Oh God, I completely feel you. I'm the same (although I'm fully Asian)!! I just wrote a similar comment above. I don't care if they're single/double/triple, I long for symmetry!

      • coco

        Um, YES! My dermatologist (Korean American) told me that for some of his Asian patients with the same lack of symmetry, continual wearing of eye tape can create a permanent 'crease' by basically training the eyelid to stay in place. Why am I tempted to try this even though it reminds me of A Clockwork Orange?!? Ha.

        • charmystique

          I can't for the life of me get the damn eyelid tape on my eyelid and stay in place the whole day. I've given up (It's too high maintenance to keep them on for more than 20 hours a day!)!! If you're still keen to try, you might wanna check out Michelle Phan's video on how to do this:

          • coco

            Totally have watched that video!
            For me, I just stick the tape on with the top edge where I want the crease, and then look up with mah eyeballs (as if I were tightlining) and they kind of magically place themselves. It's easier for me than using the fork/gouge/aaaah tool...

          • charmystique

            Cool tip!! I'm gonna try that, thanks. :P

    • Monica Kim

      Hey, no shame there. Eyelid tape can do great things! (I'm guessing; too lazy to try it myself.)

    • Jinna

      Fun fact - the word "Caucasian" is such a pseudo-ethnographic term. It was coined by a German white supremacist (Christoph Meiners) and by that original description, Caucasians - folks who actually came from the Caucasas region of Europe - look more like Kim Kardashian than your Nordic blonde/blue eyed person, which is what we now hold as the stereotypical "Caucasian" phenotype.

      • coco

        So funny - my dad is Norweigian and my mom is from HKong. I look like neither and sadly, I got none of the height! I always wondered why the word "Caucasian" had the word "Asian" within it...

  • softy

    i'm so glad to see that you love your eyelids now! i actually completely skipped out on makeup all together - i'll never forget the first time i used mac blacktrack and then opened my eyes (without waiting for it ti dry) and had black fluid smeared all over my lid. but i know a lot of girls who ended up getting the surgery after high school or college, and it kind of made me sad that they felt the need for it. i genuinely thought they looked beautiful before, and the surgery kind of took away from their...uniqueness? i don't know. i definitely use liu wen and fei fei sun as examples when i'm making the argument that single eyelids are fine just as they are.

  • charmystique

    I honestly don't mind monolids, it's just annoying when I wake up with one eyelid that's double, and the other a monolid. I can't wear eyeliner with it not looking equal, so I've now gotten used to just wearing mascara on its own--and loving it!

  • a67penguin

    I read these articles and am frankly confused by the beauty industry. Do they expect everyone to look alike? That's impossible. I have deep set green eyes and that's about the single thing that I've received compliments on beauty wise. But looking through the internet, I'm told my deep set eyes are a deviation from the norm. Why are our noses, eyes and other body parts supposed to all look the same? I know I'm beating a drum we've all heard before... but really.

  • Amy

    sometimes i wake up with one single eyelid and one double, so double eyelid tape has been a saviour in my life for the last few years to even out my face. i don't mind having them both be single eyelids, i just tend to skip eyeliner when they decide to be like that because it disappears when my eyes are open.

  • LB

    I'm quarter-Asian and I have deep creases in my almond shaped eyes and the Alexa Chung liquid liner look looks awful on me as it just disappears into my lid and makes my eyes look smaller. I've always envied how pretty it is on Asian girls.

  • Jessica

    Great post! At least we live in a progressive society, no?

  • BuffyAnneSummers97

    Also, has anyone else noticed that a lot of Asian ladies tend to brush their eyebrows downwards rather than upwards? I noticed my Japanese friend do it and now I can't stop noticing! Why does this fascinate me?!

    • coco

      Ha! If my eyebrows grew upward, I'd brush them up. But they grow downward, so I brush them that way and then trim to create the arch I want. Otherwise, it'd be like my eyes were growing a set of bangs for themselves. LOL

  • Emma

    There are all types of beauty, not just the tan, blond, round eyed
    stereotype. No one should feel like they have to go through surgery to
    meet others expectations of beauty. Just like people shouldn't feel
    like they have to fry their scalps with bleach or dye their hair to look like the current 'it girl' or sun bed
    themselves to cancer or put stuff on their skin to be orange or Botox
    their faces frozen, etc., etc.

    • Luna

      Very true, but I also want to add that if an individual wants to have double lids or wants to bleach their hair or get a tan or even botox/surgery, we shouldn't judge that harshly and say they are only trying to meet up the expectation either.

  • Luna

    I was born and raised in South Korea, and I grew up watching my classmates using tapes to try to create a temporary double lid on their eyes. A significant majority of my friends got "double lid eye surgery" as a high school graduation present. I really relate to this article because once I started getting into makeup I really started to develop my own standards about the looks I like, and finally got to appreciate my eyes as they are. I think that's why diverse representation of "beauty" is so important, because it makes you look at things differently, challenge yourself to think a little differently, and accept all different faces as beautiful on their own.

  • Aurélia Diotima Bode

    I can't be the only person who thinks single eyelids are beautiful, right? YOU ARE ALL GORGEOUS! But then again, I don't have them so it is easy to say..

  • Soo-Cat Eye

    I have not left my apt at any time unless I "put my eyes on" Sometimes on the weekend if me and my bf are going to have lazy time- i run into the bathroom earlier and slap on some messy smudgy crayon- half asleep. it's crazy!

    • Monica Kim

      Been there!

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  • lynnjamin

    Ahhhh I relate to this article so much! For me, the model who completely changed the way I think about beauty was Du Juan. I remember feeling like an alien among a sea of pretty, blonde California girls until I discovered fashion magazines

  • Eliza

    I think monolids are so pretty--probably because I have very heavy-lidded eyes (fun fact, you literally cannot do a full-on smokey eye with my eyes unless you're going for the "tired homeless raccoon" look), and the grass is always greener.

  • Angela

    This was a relatable read for me as someone with single eyelids myself. I think its great that you are making an effort to embrace your natural beauty.

  • Luna

    I can't really agree that Asian archetypal female body type is sought after in many ethnicities. From the time I grew up in Korea and until now, Korea's idea of stereotypical beautiful body is under 50kg, and usually 47kg. That is around 104lbs for a fully grown woman no matter what their height and build is. I don't think that is sought after in that many ethnicities other than Asian.

    • Jinna

      I'll amend that - the Western *perception* of the Asian archetypal female body type - or at least the perceived metabolism for the petiteness - is sough after. And from editorial viewpoint, it *does* seem that the slender, less zaftig body type is idealized - not necessarily the weight, but now compared to the 80s when fitness and more muscle tone was glamourized, more so.

  • Monica Kim

    Hi Mai! This the nicest comment I've ever received, thank you. Growing up, I also had a lot of trouble finding people to relate to, which is why I was so thrilled when single-lidded models appeared on the scene. Before then, I was too preoccupied with the narrow depictions of beauty I saw in American (and Korean) media. The models really changed my point-of-view! Hopefully, more people will begin to accept all the different kinds of beauty.

  • coco

    Why are people so weird sometimes?! One of my friends is Korean and she and her siblings have the most amazing curly hair. As in, like, ringlets when they were children and now wavy as adults. It's gorgeous and totally surprising, too!

  • Jinna

    There also seems to be more than subtle differences in the standards to which different generations / cohorts of Asian women are held. Anecdotally, the American-born Korean woman in her 20s is going to have a different cultural experience and standard based on her experiences and geographic location compared to a 30-something born/raised in South Korea, for example. The Korean editorials do differ, sometimes dramatically, in their representation of beauty to Korean women than the Western media.

  • Eliza

    Out of curiosity, do you think (if you've noticed/have experience with this) that there is more emphasis on the importance of appearance/beauty in Asian countries, or in America?

    My American friend went to Japan and said she never saw a single girl without makeup/put-together clothes (and obviously, that is one person's experience in one Japanese city) but all the Asian girls I went to college with looked SO much more put-together on a day-to-day basis than all of us Americans haha. I'm curious, because I think American magazines/media make a big deal that Americans have "so much pressure" to look a certain way, but it sounds like this might be a lot more extreme/pervasive in Asian cultures?

    Maybe ITG could do a piece on this with input from readers, I am always very interested in beauty from other parts of the world!

    • Jinna

      Having lived/worked in Asia among other qualifying opinions, from a professional standpoint, business decorum is very appearance-oriented and putting on a good face/looking good or at least showing effort into your appearance is a sign of respect for the customer or client. A guy I dated who was awesome in thoughtfully explicating his culture from a very traditional perspective told me that hypothetically, he'd be quite put off if he was attended to by an unkempt or unhygeinic man or woman - and, the kicker - manifested in this scenario - should a female customer service rep didn't have make-up on or look like she'd put effort into her appearance that morning, it would be a bit offensive! I'm guessing that's rooted in some Confucian or cultural standard that started far beyond business suits, but it definitely reflects the zeitgeist.

  • Tab Smith

    As a MUA in Hawaii, I absolutely love love love this article. I find the monolid absolutely beautiful and really shy away from altering it's appearance. I specialize senior photography makeup and I want every gorgeous gal with a monolid to read this. Thank you for writing it!

  • Eliza

    Wow, thank you for sharing your experience (and you too Jinna)!

    Speaking as someone who has only ever lived in America, that is crazy to me--I rarely wear makeup to work, and if a stranger told me I should get plastic surgery that wouldn't end well for them haha. I did get teased about my lips growing up, but that's about it. Definitely seems like a HUGE cultural leap.

    I saw a documentary (really short and was on YouTube, but wasn't bad!) about Korean girls in school, and almost all of them considered themselves ugly and said they "needed" plastic surgery. Have you seen that episode of the Twilight Zone, where the girl has to pick between seven faces for herself? It reminded me of that--it seemed like they thought there was only ONE way to be pretty, and anything that deviated couldn't possibly be nice.

  • coco

    Sodium the night before gives me the craziest eye creases on my right eye. Might as well wear an eyepatch and get a parrot, if you know what i mean

  • Junnie

    I remember once in high school I didn't have time to do my trusty eyeliner routine, which was similar to the yours (how I ever made it to school by 8 a.m. all the other mornings with full-face makeup, I'll never understand). I couldn't look anyone in the eye. It wasn't one moment that changed my routine. Maybe it was the summer trip to Korea where beauty culture said my monolids were normal (that's another story), but I remember one morning I put only mascara on--albeit it was two to three coats--and behold, I looked fine. Minimal makeup is now regular for me. Thanks for writing this. Because this experience is normal to me, I forget that a lot of people haven't thought of this perspective. And it definitely needs to be heard!

  • Myra Esoteric

    This isn't odd, a lot of people have different eyelids especially before puberty. I see this among African Americans as well. AFAIK, I'm as nonminority Chinese as can be, guys in my family have curly hair as adults, I got the eyelid change scenario.

    No weirder than white kids' hair going from blonde to dark, or black kids' hair changing texture, or lots of people's skin getting darker, during puberty.

  • Janet Lee

    Luna, you sound so much like me! I'm in my 30s and spent most of my life in Australia. I have 'fat' monolids which I never really thought about until a Korean person brought it up and told me 'why' boys didn't find me attractive. That I was not 'pretty enough'. The most popular Korean actress at the time was Choi Jin-Sil and the men would say "See, now SHE is beautiful. You don't look like that."
    Wow. Now that I'm thinking back on it with my adult mind, that was a really terrible, cruel thing to say to a teenage girl. I'm not for a second saying that all Korean men are chauvinistic. Not at all. Just the men who were around me a lot when I was growing up.

    I'm not a feminine girly-girl type. I'm more of a jock. I played sports all my life and was sweating all day long or was in the pool, so I didn't wear any makeup. Thankfully, people in Australia are generally casual about that (even in main cities like Sydney and Melbourne), and also, makeup was strictly forbidden at my school, so I didn't need to worry about it too much. A few girls would sneak in mascara here and there, but they were immediately noticed by teachers who made them wash it off.

    Korean boys were never interested in me. The only boys/men who ever complimented me or asked me out were Anglo Aussie guys and NOT as a 'token Asian girlfriend', but they actually liked ME as a person. They liked that I was sporty and enjoyed watching football and cricket with them.

    When I met my husband, my self esteem was at an all-time low and I was still on a hellride from acne I had for years. Even though that was at my skinniest, I still thought I needed to lose weight (why do we always think that!?) He was really lovely and told me that I was beautiful, and not to change anything. I'll always be grateful.

    It's been awhile since I've been back to Korea. Whenever I'm asked if I plan to visit any time soon, I reply "I would need to lose at least 20 kilos (around 45 lb) and get $30,000 worth of plastic surgery, and I have no intention of doing either." It was so not like this when I lived there (in the 80s).

    Not all monolids are created the same. Like I've said, my eyelids have a lot of fat in them, whereas the Youtube makeup blogger like Jen from has much wider, bigger eyes. When my eyes are fully open, they're about 6-7mm (about 1/4 inch) big at the widest point. No, I haven't been crying. No, I'm not having an allergic reaction. My eyes are just small. Amazingly, now, I don't have a problem with them.

    Luna, I also agree with you on people being more accepting of the eccentric fashion sense in Japan. You can dye your hair gold and pink, have 20+ piercings in your ears, eyebrow, upper lip, tongue and you'll get away with it and even get some smiles and impressed glances from passers-by.

    When people mention the Asians wanting to 'look Western', I think
    they mean half-Asian, half-Caucasian, like Daniel Henney or Moon
    Bloodgood. I mean, you can make the eyes as wide as you want and wear
    bright blue contacts and dye your hair blonde, but you're still going to
    look 100% Asian. There's no denying it. So I'll just fake good skin by applying some light foundation, apply blusher, curl my very short eyelashes which point down and put on some lipgloss. Why not? I don't need to have big eyes, weigh less than 100 pounds and a small face to do my job or be loved by my husband and friends.

  • Janet Lee

    Here's a good tutorial for those of us with monolids by Sam Chapman:

    Instead of putting the colours which you would normally put on your eye socket, you put the colours on your eyeline and blend up and out. I haven't tried it with the green colours, but it works nicely when I wear pink/purple eyeshadows.

  • helterskelter

    And i'm just sitting here with one double eyelid and one mono lid.
    What do i do now?

  • jenny

    People can be so mean. Same thing happened to me. Had uneven lids which evened out naturally. I really can't explain it, but it just happened. So people are unwilling to accept that and accuse me of surgically tampering with them. It's annoying and awkward but whatever I know they're natural and that's all that matters.

  • B.

    This. Is. So. Important. I am Korean myself and have quite heavy single eyelids/monolids/whatever you wish to call them. I've always hated my eyes and spent several hours crying because of them. I am very much drawn to the idea of plastic surgery - just for my upper lids. But then again, they're my eyes. They are what makes me look the way I do. They take part of defining me. This was so uplifting to read, as I still think about surgery quite often, but have also taken some big steps on the road to accepting/being satisfied with my eyes. I think this is very important because with all these standards etc. for the "ideal face", I can only imagine how many young girls (and boys!) struggle with their own reflection. I am maybe not the one to say this because I still have not come to love my reflection a 100 percent yet (I know there will always be something - we all know this feeling, but you catch my drift, yes?), but wow. I really do think it is important to learn to love how you we're created. Did this make any sense? .... x


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