The Long and the Short of It

Daria Werbowy, Long vs. Short Hair

Lest you think no one's reading the comments here, well, we do. (And fun fact? We love them. Your tweets and emails and comments often inspire posts and, at the very least, extensive conversations.). Case in point: last week, when one notably well-thought-out comment appeared under our latest hairspiration post, The Manic Pixie Dream Cut, we got to talking, seriously, about hair.

Ignorant Male wrote:

“I am a male with no fashion sense whatsoever, and I stumbled onto this post because sometimes people take wrong turns on the Internet. I am in no way trying to troll. As a fashion layman, I need this question explained.

Why is this a look? What about it is aesthetically pleasing?

All these women are beautiful, but in my view, this hairstyle in my opinion makes every person pictured look worse. Furthermore, I don't know a single male who prefers this look to a normal hairstyle. I know that everyone here will pounce on that comment as misogynistic drivel, and I am NOT trying to imply that women's fashion is about looking good to men. It is not, but if every person I know agrees that this haircut is a terrible idea, what am I missing that makes it good/desirable?

Again, I do not know what I am talking about. I'm not trying to start a fight, and I know that style is inherently subjective. I am simply ignorance personified, and I want to be informed why anyone would go with this look.

Please don't kill me.”

Well, thankfully, nobody killed him (we hope? are you still out there, Ignorant Male?), and there was a whole variety of thoughtful responses (from Abby, KIki, Hannah, and Lischelt among others). The consensus seemed to be A) You’re very brave and very funny and good on you for asking for help with something you don’t understand; B) This is nothing new: “Women from the 1920s were intentionally rebelling. This haircut is timeless as shit.” (Love you, Hannah.); C) Short hair is “chic,” “unfussy,” “denotes a level of confidence...eccentricity,” and can help women “stand out” when they have the right facial structure for it; and D) This excellent ’88 essay from Vogue by Joan Juliet Buck that everyone should read (thank you, Lischelt), because it hits the nail on the chicly coiffed head and is beautifully written.

All these answers, though inventive and thoughtful, still left essential pieces of the question unanswered: Does cutting your hair have to mean anything? Or, are we, on some unconscious level, paralyzed by a need to feel 'technically attractive'? Or is the desire to present yourself however which way you choose a right you own that belongs to only you? Combine that with our "Future Feminism" post and the comments therein, and we felt we had a lot more answers to find. (And, for the record, our brand of feminism means "You go, girl," regardless of what you wear or what you do or what you want. That's just for the record. Lipstick or no lipstick, full-face or no-makeup makeup, YOU GO, YOU.)

Ever the faithful sleuths, we turned to our good ol’ pal the Internet and came up with a whole bunch of blog posts by men about how men prefer long hair because it’s “more feminine,”guys like change [from themselves],” “You know how you feel about guys having really long hair? That’s how men feel about women with short hair,” one notable failed attempt at a joke about picking up hot lesbians at a bar in Silverlake, CA, and a whole bunch of psychological studies that cite how long hair denotes youth, and long, healthy hair denotes childbearing possibilities that get men’s primal instincts for babymaking all excited. We even turned to Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger (sadly, only in televised form, as she was unreachable for comment), who once told the New York Times that “men like long flowing locks. They just do” and who we have watched ask more than one aspiring trophy wife to pump up the cleavage and get extensions, if necessary, to produce some Victoria’s Secret loose beach waves ("Men want something to play with!" she shrieked). (She also recommends staring at men, striking up conversations at random and "always, always returning calls.")

But...what about ‘chic’? Who’s thinking about ‘chic’ here? (Joan Juliet Buck is: “Short hair removes obvious femininity and replaces it with style... Short hair makes other people think you have good bones, determination and an agenda... Your face is no longer a flat screen surrounded by a curtain: The world sees you in three dimensions,” she wrote in Vogue.) And oh, by the way, preferring to have long hair does not make you a slave to the male gaze—some of us just look better with long locks, too! (Or do we...?!) It was all very confusing. What team were we on? Are there teams? SHOULD THERE BE?!

We decided to let our hair down (ha, ha, ha) and call in the big guns—or those who wield the big scissors—to find out what they really, truly thought about hair length, and specifically the crop.

Their answers, below:

Jimmy Paul: “There's obviously something very compelling about healthy, androgynous hair on a woman—youth and health and a slight bit of danger, if you really take it down to a psychological level. That kind of haircut always comes back, whether its Josie Borain in the '80s with the Calvin Klein ads, or Linda Evangelista, it’s always going to come back in fashion, when there’s a thatch of hair on top and short on the sides and back—it’s so flattering, and on a woman, it’s a great thing. The head shape comes into it, too. Most women have heads that are smaller than men’s heads, and necks that are thinner, so all of a sudden something 'androgynous' becomes something extremely feminine and beautiful and delicate. I mean, short hair may be 'technically androgynous,' but if you think about Linda Evangelista or Audrey Hepburn, in fact it heightens their sexuality and femininity, in a way. It also highlights that incredible bone structure. Think about Funny Face, when Audrey has longer hair, she looks dowdy—and she didn’t have beautiful hair, Hepburn—they have it down in her face when she’s 'plain' and working at the bookstore, and then they cut it short and all of a sudden—[gasp]—you see the neck, the bone structure, you see it.”

Julien D’Ys:  "I prefer long! I always prefer long. It’s more romantic. You can do more with it..."

Didier Malige (who created Natalie Portman's chop for The Professional) is the guy responsible for Emily's ever-disappearing 'do, which is one way of making his feelings on the subject known.

Danilo [via email]: “I REFUSE TO CHOOSE

BOTH CAPTURE MY GAZE

FOR A COMMITTED WEIGH-IN

ILOVETHECHOP”

Michael Angelo: “I believe there’s a short-hair personality type and a long-hair personality type, and often with the latter, it’s because they feel safer that way—that’s what makes her feel sexy and pretty. But what I try to do is engage in a conversation that helps me to understand where she’s coming from. When I hear women who would look great—could look better—with short hair say silly things like, ‘My husband wants me to keep it long,' or 'Guys like long hair,’ I say, ‘Can we talk about that? What does your husband do for you because you like it? Or are you just kissing ass?’ I think how we present ourselves, our fashion, our hair, our makeup, is an exterior expression of how we feel about ourselves on the inside. When women cut their hair short, they feel attractive, I think they’re saying, ‘I’m on my terms, I’m not letting typical male desires dictate my choices,’ and that’s intimidating as hell to a lot of men, because there are a lot of men out there who still are raised to think that they can tell women what to do. And then you have to think, well, if that's why you're afraid of cutting it, do you want a man who wants a woman who’s not confident? When it’s done best, beauty is about infusing confidence; that’s what’s beautiful to me. Think about Madonna in "Papa Don’t Preach" [Ed. note: F-ING KILLER REFERENCE], when she emerged with that short, sassy platinum cut and you watched the way she moved, it was sexy, but it wasn’t 'feminine.' It wasn’t Victoria’s Secret, or that sense of 'Come and overtake me,' it was like, 'I’m going to do the fucking here.' Plus, there’s so much more you can do with short hair to flatter the face. Long hair is just sort of long. You can strategize with short hair, start sculpting someone’s head... Even when we dress someone for an event, the first thing we do is put the hair up; it’s instant glamour. I guess it’s just, for some guys, the idea of that hair finally coming down to be played with is still just such a draw.”

But, what this all comes down to, is you. Can you picture yourself walking down the street with a pixie cut feeling really, truly confident? Would you be hesitant to do it because you’re worried about what men will think? Or is that just something that we all have to grow up and get over because it’s your head and you’re great and who gives a hell what the proverbial 'he' thinks, if he can’t take it? Let’s hash this one out. (And, by the way, to quote Ignorant Male: Please don't kill us for all the questions. We can't help it! We're just so curious!)

On left, Daria Werbowy shot by Cass Bird for T magazine, Summer 2011; on right, Daria Werbowy shot by Inez and Vinoodh for Vogue Paris, November 2012.

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  • beeswaxnoneofyour

    I get the feeling some guys are intimidated by the short cut. Personally I had a pixie at 23 and my boyfriend at the time loved it - as a matter of fact one day I just went and had it done on a whim, then met him for drinks that night. The first thing out of his mouth was 'you look like a movie star!' (I don't, but who doesn't want to hear that?).

  • Celina

    I like the option of being able to pin my hair up into a faux bob, pony tail, braid etc as a reflection of my style and personality. I feel like with long hair you have the best of all worlds! Plus I also have to take hair texture/thickness into consideration.

  • Kate

    I feel like this is a conversation I have over and over again! Personally, I'm not going to allow whether or not a man may (or may not) find a length attractive determine the length of my hair and what I find attractive on me.

    I think long hair is gorgeous on many, many people (including both of my sisters) but it's not on me. I have very fine, wavy hair and not a lot of it and when it gets past my shoulders, it starts to clump together in ringlets and it's just a bunch of "Hell to the no." I switch it up between a pixie and a bob and I've done so almost since I started high school. It's what works best for my hair type and my bone structure.

    As for what others may think about it or read into it? I may think about it from time to time, but at the end of the day, it's my hair and my face and my decision.

  • thetravellingfemme

    I cannot pull off short hair. I have tried soooo many times. I have that very particular combination of extremely curly hair and a face/features that isn't/aren't feminine/strong enough. What are you gonna do? HOWEVER I LOVE SHORT HAIR. I love long hair, big hair, but every time I see a beautiful woman with super short hair, to me, she's not just pretty but suuuuuper sexy. Cause it's true, Short denotes confidence and puts all the genetic lottery-ness on display. It's almost like bragging. Btw, have you heard the song by India Arie "I Am Not My Hair"? It's a good one.

    • Miss. Y

      Yep, I know how you feel. I have coarse, unruly curly and frizzy hair that no hairdresser has ever conquered into making something that stays beautiful after the first wash (you know, when I have my hair cut and I wash it the first time afterwards I can never reproduce how my hair looked fresh after the hairdresser). And yes, my face is too soft for it too. I'd look like a boy, and not in a sultry, mysterious, androgynous model type of way. I could never ever walk out of the house again without make-up and in jeans and T-shirt, because otherwise I'd just look like a pathetic she-male. I'd love to have short hair only for the time it would save me in the morning ;-)

  • Jane S

    I have fine-but-lots-of-it, curly/wavy hair that frizzes at the slightest hint of humidity and thus found a short haircut the best, most flattering way of keeping my hair under control with minimal effort. I grew up in the '70's when all I wanted were Marcia Brady's cool sheets of center-parted hair--the impossible dream. Flash forward to 1998, I move to NYC, and thanks to the ministrations of Steven Dillon and his magic potions and wands, I eventually have long, swingy hair like a shampoo advert that I toss about with abandon. Then I discover keratin treatments which do indeed give me stick straight hair on humid days, but I miss my hair's natural bounce and body. So I cut it short, getting a close approximation of the cut Sam McKnight gave Carmen Kass before Balmain a few seasons ago. Yes, I needed another keratin treatment but I loved it and felt like I was back to my genuine self. I grew it out a bit, then David Mallett cut it short again last summer. I'm a youthful 54 (don't all 50-something's say that?) but I felt a certain resignation that my long hair-swishing days were behind me. So I've grown my hair out again (and plan to let DM have his way with it again this summer) and now hair that grazes my shoulder just seems more me. Not a last grasp at the Marcia Brady of my youth, but not Miss Hathaway from the Beverly Hillbillies either. So I guess my message comes down to this--experiment with your hair a lot when you're young and have the bone structure for it. And it may take a lot of messing around to find out as your hairstyle evolves with you!

  • N-NYC

    this post is so amazing and timely! i just cut 8 inches off my hair into a chic-as-shit cropped bob. i had long past-the-shoulder hair for so long because i thought it was sexy and feminine, and yes, i could "do more" with it. in the end, i came to terms with the fact that is was dead hair, laying flat, and doing nothing for me.

    i actually feel 100% sexier and more feminine with my short cut. it's healthy, it has movement, it gives me personality, and you know -- i can do a lot with it? messy, sleek, even pull it back and let all those delicious pieces hang out.

    and...my man LOVES it. he thinks it's hot hot hot and super stylish. i haven't felt this good in years. don't be afraid of the hot chop!

    • Fabsbabs

      Totally agree! I just chopped six inches off on Tuesday (Jordan Sparkes @ Garren), and my long hair that was trying say 'pretty and feminine' actually just hung lifelessly is now a collarbone length bob. A breath of fresh air to say the least! If you ever had an inkling to do the chop, now is the time!

  • http://nomadic-d.blogspot.com/ Nomadic D.

    Love this article! When I chopped off my long locks of over a decade to a shaggy bob - see here if you like:

    http://bit.ly/YsfwUg

    I felt totally liberated and exhilarated. I loved my long hair, but I had come to think of it as part of me, part of the definition of me, and I think that's where we run into trouble. Now I feel younger, more adventurous, more fun. Husband loved that cut, but the next one (inspired by your article on Langly Fox Hemmingway), which you can see here if you're curious:

    http://on.fb.me/Ysgcc6

    took him some getting used to. Still, he's embraced it now and I think he loves the funner freer happier me. Now he thinks I should go crazy short, and I love that he's into it. We'll see just how far I take it, but for now, I'm super happy. And I think that there's a confidence in short hair that you just can't express with long hair, beautiful and elegant though it may be. That's my two cents on the matter...

    http://www.nomadicd.com

    • Sara

      Nomadic, your haircut is wonderful (love it!!!), and you are a beautiful woman! :)

    • stellamaris73

      Both looks suit you, and both have a rocker-ish vibe. Thanks for sharing!

  • jf

    Can you tell me how to style my hair like the photo on the right? I love the volume and texture - and her hair still looks like its pretty soft and shiny.

  • http://twitter.com/Occhineri23 Suzanne

    Great article! My hair is just past my chin now, but my husband and daughter both prefer it really short; I'm just too lazy to maintain it.

  • Adrienne Angelos

    I've got to say that I agree with Ignorant Male about most women going short, but when it's done right it can just as striking as bold statement makeup. Case en pointe is ours truly, Ms. Emily Weiss. You can still find pictures of her with long hair thanks to the internet, and while she's still pretty, her short hair is FIERCE in a way that I think both genders appreciate. There are some people who werk. it. out. and we all have to try it once to check and see if we can too.

  • Sydney

    I've short hair for over a year now and I cannot believe how many people compliment it--and prefer it! Plenty of men have told me that they like it. I'm even finding that I am attracting men that I would consider "bros" or "jocks" which I never expected.

    Over the summer, I was feeling extra fiesty and wanted to do something more dramatic than a pixie, so I shaved my head. I loved it--even though I would have dreams of myself with my long hair (maybe its because the ponytail I cut off still haunts me from the bedside table drawer). It really got some reactions, the worst one being from an old high school acquantaince "Whoa, what's up with the dyke hair? Oh, well I mean you must be doing it for some cause or something then, right?" Um, NO. How about I'm doing it because I want to and it makes me feel something other than being a pretty object of desire.

    Right now, I've finally gotten it back to a pixie and I am hoping to grow it out to a bob because I'm ready for something new.

  • Local & Opulent

    So many women fear cutting their hair, but here is my philosophy. TRY IT! Hair grows! I usually keep mine very long, but a few years ago walked into the salon with waist length hair and walked out with a pixie cut. THE. BEST. FEELING. EVER. I am now back to the long locks, but hey, you never know when the urge to chop will come again!

    A new post is up on Local & Opulent and I have shoes on the brain! Seriously, who doesn't love shoes. This collection would have Carrie Bradshaw drooling!

    http://localandopulent.wordpress.com/2013/03/14/533/

  • http://twitter.com/rachellynnec Rachel LC

    I chopped off all my hair into a Carey Mulligan-ish pixie several years back (here's a photo - http://bit.ly/YdgTUx) after a terrible haircut that left me with a lady mullet. Every man I knew preferred my hair short (and a few suggested I cut it even shorter, a'la Jean Seberg). I loved my pixie and the freedom that came with it... but I love my healthy shoulder length hair, too. I hate to seem bitter, but to me, the idea that a woman can't look amazing with short hair is just so... tired.

  • http://www.happyhoneylark.blogspot.com Kallie, Happy Honey & Lark

    I read a quote once that said "long haired women look as though they are exactly where they should be, and short haired women look like they have somewhere else to be" and I'm still not sure how to feel about it.

    Completely unrelated, the night I met my boyfriend I had long hair and the next day cut it off. So, he met me as the girl with long curly hair and fell in love with me as the girl with the short hair so it probably doesn't matter all that much what length of hair you choose.

    I prefer short because I hate the way wet hair feels on my neck and back when I get out of the shower. It really is just that simple for me.

  • Tasha

    The first misconception on Ignorant's part is that "it's a terrible idea." That simply isn't true, as evidenced by this post and every comment on it so far. In fact, lots of people think short hair is very attractive. If everyone he knows actually agrees with him, then he's living in a very small bubble.

    I am lucky to have awesome hair. I kept it waist length for years, chopped it, grew it out, chopped it again, and eventually shaved it entirely. And I can tell you this: I get the odd male who wistfully mentions my long hair, but I get at least as much - if not more - male attention with it very short than I did when it was long.

    Ignorant phrased his comment very politely, but even so I am always suspicious of men who think long hair is the only attractive option. It's like saying you're only attracted to women in skirts - pants and shorts are right out. It smacks of a misogyny that undoubtedly bleeds over into opinions less inconsequential than hairstyle.

  • http://twitter.com/MsDenbi Denisse

    I don't mind the pixie cuts, but personally, I will never cut my hair that short. Not because I care what men will think, but just because it's not my style. The shortest I have ever gone has been about two inches above my shoulders, and I hated not being able to pull it up.

    The think about hair trends that bothers me is that right now short hair is in, and everyone sees some really cool pictures of some really cool girls working the hair cut, and so we go and cut it off. But then come fall, or in a few months, long hair will be trending and we'll see beachy waves luscious long locks and we'll all see the pictures and want to have long hair like that. And that has happened to me countless times! So now, long hair is my goal and I'll avoid temptations, because every time I cut it, I hate it.

  • http://www.facebook.com/boomsbaker Sarah Baker Hansen

    I loved reading every word of this. A few years ago I finally accepted that I would never have the flowing waist-length locks that I used to dream of and just chopped my baby fine hair into a chin-length bob. From there, once the ponytail option was gone, a pixie was the next step. It made so much more sense. It was so freeing. And I loved how it made me look. Sidebar: The part in the 1988 Vogue essay about lipstick is so spot-on. I wear lipstick every day now. I love lipstick more than hair. Sidebar, part two: I dyed my short pixie platinum last summer and I had dark blonde roots. My gay uncle told me I looked like Madonna in the "Papa don't Preach" video and it was the greatest moment ever.

    • seilens

      I have super baby fine hair too and last summer after having it longish for a while, then short with multi colors for a while, I decided to chop most of it off and got a super short asymmetrical bob and bleached it platinum. I'm still in love with the platinum, but have grown it out into a Debbie Harry-ish chin length mess! And the only thing that guys tell me? They miss my pink hair or red hair or think I should try a really dark color next. (But sometimes I miss my pink hair too.)

  • Alison Bell

    Think of Patty in 'My So-Called Life' everybody! She got a new lease of life when she opted for the chop!

    • ITGAlessandra

      EXCELLENT REFERENCE, ALISON!

      • Alison Bell

        :) It did much more than just show her ears!

  • http://twitter.com/far_and_wild Far and Wild Jewelry

    i don't think there's a right answer to this question. like most questionable trends it's all about knowing yourself and what works best for your body. if you think you have the bone structure to pull off short hair and will feel confident with it then chop that mane sister. as for me i know that my bone structure is nothing like emily's, laurel's, or audrey's so the long hair stays.

    abigail
    http://www.farandwildjewelry.blogspot.com

  • Zelda

    Almost exactly one year ago I was reading the Steve Jobs bio and was contemplating wasting yet another Saturday morning at the salon chasing away the grey swath of hair running down the middle of my crown. Three hours gone forever along with a couple hundred bucks and about 4 layers of my scalp. And the results would last about 3 weeks. I was 40 years old but I had been going grey for 20 years. And I was ready to stop the madness. I decided to go from J. Lo caramel kissed highlights to whatever hot mess of salt and pepper was growing out of my scalp. And I really did not know what was under there. Hadn't seen it in 20 years.

    As the swath grew into a super highway I started to panic because I now had a kind of nightmarish reverse ombre. I didn't mind the grey as much as I minded the implication that I was a careless person who didn't keep up with things. I was at the gym when it struck me. I needed to ask, "What Would Steve Jobs Do?" I decided that Steve would chop off his Real Housewives of East Central Wherever mermaid hair and would get a Jean Seberg pixie. I would show my three daughters (and my son) that you did not have to be a slave to cultural pressures to be forever 21. And I could use the money I would save to buy lipstick and earrings.

    Was it an amazing transformation? Indeed. Do I look younger, sexier and more feminine. No. No. And no. Do I wish I still had long, brown hair? Yes. Has it been a revelation? Yes. It revealed to me that in those moments when I really want to forget my resolve and run to the salon just how much I do feel the pressure to stay young (ish) and attractive to men. Men I don't want to sleep with or even talk to. Which makes no sense. And when I finally get to there it is that understanding that keeps me out of Walgreens. Because I never want the brown hair for me. But for what it represents to people looking at me. I still struggle with it after a year.

    Most of the time I love my new hair. It is easy and it is bold and, dare I say it, even a little bit chic. But a cut like this really does represent something more than hair and it is worthy of some examination.

    • Ona_in_Barcelona

      For what it's worth, I think your short hair looks really chic. And I normally like longer hair.

    • caitlin

      you look truly beautiful. you have an amazing face. beyond the fact that you look amazing aesthetically, what a powerful message to share with your children(and women everywhere!) bravo, zelda!

    • yvette

      Awesome transformation! Good for you. You look amazing. Not only will you save money but TIME. I've had short hair and long, and I can't believe how much more time and effort long hair is. Ugh.

    • Cat

      This is not "a little bit chic", this my friend, is chic as fuck.
      Pardon the language!

    • Marla Vender

      You are an inspiration! While I'm too jowly to go short, I am going in Thursday to whiten the ends of my decidedly white hair at the sides of my face. While French women may not go gray, American women do and often look, like you, sexy as hell!

    • Zelda

      Oh! I was so nervously ambivalent about posting this. Thank you for your kind remarks.

    • stellamaris73

      ADORE your short cut. Thanks for sharing the pic.

    • lolauren

      My mother has decided to let her grey grow for the same reason- she was sick of the constant salon visits. Initially, I was really against her allowing herself to look "older". Now think its so fantastic. Women everywhere compliment her look and you can see them looking wistfully at her swagger without dye. As you said about your children, I think its so wonderful and I'm proud of her courage to embrace her true self. I just wanted to chime in as the "child" who is indeed really impressed by their mom :)

    • little blue flowers

      You are my absolute hero. WWSJD, indeed! And you look like a gorgeous, genius.

    • Dee

      This is fucking fierce.

    • RJ

      You've overthought this. All I can say is that I understand your yearning to have the old hair back. What's wrong with long AND silver, BTW? Look at Emmylou Harris. She looks young and sexy, period. God bless.

  • LoSpaz

    Well, I guess Ignorant Male won't be looking to date me anytime soon, but that's OK. I chopped my hair off about five years ago because I was tired of it. Tired of wrangling with it every morning, only to have it look exactly the same - long, lank, and, well, tired. My hair was taking an extended snooze. A pixie cut woke it up.

    Ignorant Male may think no one likes this look - and it's true, it's harder to find men who do, but he may be surprised to know that they exist AND that the judgmental ones provide an excellent barometer for choosing my company well - but I get AT LEAST one comment a day, usually more, always gushing, from women who love my cut, want to know where I get it cut and who is my stylist and what do you use in it and how long does it take in the morning? I got maybe one compliment a year on my long hair.

    I keep mine short in the back and on the sides with long, sideswept bangs. It feels like me, like the part of me that kept changing my look incessantly as a teenager and young adult has finally come home.

    I will agree that you do have to remember makeup - not just lipstick; my particular cut requires diligent brow maintenance and a deep understanding of the power of eyeliner because it makes my eyes stand out so much - but since I'm no longer spending more than 5 minutes on my hair, I'm happy to experiment more with makeup.

  • Lara

    What a post! I have contemplated this 'hair-issue' so extensively I couldn't resist to share my two cents.
    First off, kudos to Ignorant Male - who doesn't love a guy who's ready to comment on ITG in order to educate himself?
    Basically, and before I start my pseudo-scientific shit, I think it comes down to one very simple thing: "What suits you?". That's it. The next thing is taste, but really, first comes the question of fit. Men like blondes, men like brunettes, men like short hair and they like long hair as well, just depends on personal preferences. Still I'd say a lot of those men who say they only like long hair, if they meet that insanely pretty girl with short(er) hair - I'm looking at you Emily! My god you are so beautiful it hurts! Ok, I'll stop now, you're probably freaked out already but don't be afraid, I'm not gonna stalk you outside ITG (and Instagram, of course, heh) - so, if they see that girl, they'll still totally fall for her!
    I guess the question of what length looks best on me? does indeed prevail over apparent taste. My father always said he liked short hair much more than long (mother always had super short hair, however when they met it was long), but when I grew my hair out, he'd compliment me on it.
    Heck, I had had short hair all my life (as soon as it reached near-shoulder-length, mother would give me a chainsaw chop, complete boy-look, stating long hair didn't suit me) and when I was about 15 one day I decided I would stop visiting the hairdresser. By then I obviously kept mother far away from my hair, but never got anywhere close to shoulder length thanks to over-enthusiastic hairdressers (btw, what is up with them? I tell them, just a short trim, and they chop them off completely!). So I told everyone I'll let it grow and EVERYONE told me I shouldn't do it, since "long hair didn't suit me". Folks, I replied, I never even had long hair! You have no idea whether it suits me and frankly, neither have I, since none of us ever saw it happen!
    Long story short: I let it grow, cut it, let it grow, couple of years later it's hip-length and I could never imagine going back for myself. My folks gave in, saying thank god I did that and I should never cut it as it wouldn't suit me (hah hah thanks!). Now the thing is: I am really lucky to have the strongest, healthiest and, most importantly, thickest hair imaginable. I tortured it all my life with dying (heck I was pitch-black at one point and platinum blonde at another), straightening, blow-drying and so on, and it still didn't die on me. It thankfully still is glossy and bouncy and naturally wavy - and I got smarter with age too, stopped dying it some time ago, it is naturally a dark ebony colour and turns out - who'd thought that - this shades compliments me the most. I even enjoy people telling me I looked like Snow White since I have extremely fair skin (fairest foundation always is too dark, bummer) and very pigmented lips (darkest red, almost purple - kissing nude lips good-bye).
    So I didn't want to go over about how awesome my hair is (reading what I wrote, that's kinda what I did, hope it doesn't come over too wrong), but about how I had to find what looked best on me. And as I said, I have really tried everything and failed until recently.
    Sure I get complimented on my hair and guys will probably hit on me with the first thing they notice is the hair - but at the same time my roommate gets hit on waaay more often with her very short hair, because it just looks incredible on her - it's just right! She has very thin, very light brown hair and she did have long hair once, but it didn't look good, as she said herself, and so she's keeping it short now - if it's about the guys: it works.
    I have come to realise I just cannot get away with short hair as I have somewhat of a manly physique - very slim, meaning no boobs, no ass; broad shoulders with quite muscular arms - and totally look like a dude with short hair -- or at least as if I was trying to be one. Finding what is right for oneself is not about how others think you should wear you hair or how many compliments you get - once it's right, you know it, and with that feeling everyone else will chime in on that.
    Case in point (and finally finishing this ridiculously long comment) - there is no right or wrong in this debate: Ignorant Male, if the girl of your dreams comes along one day, having a super short cut, you will not even realise you only like long hair. (And trust me, it's not vice versa!)

  • JC

    Never in a million years would I have thought to cut my unflattering long hair off (despite my mom's attempts - shave your head! it's just hair!) until I lost it when I was on chemo. I chopped it into a pixie cut shortly before I knew it would start falling out and it's been my signature haircut ever since (4 yrs later)! I cannot tell you how many more compliments I get on my hair since it's been short..but I have noticed a trend. When I lived in Washington DC, I got comments daily - people dying to go short and wanting the confidence to do it (as a bad liar, so I couldn't pretend I was so bold as to make the choice myself, but encouraged them to remember that if they hate it, it'll come back). I may have a good shaped face for a pixie cut (as it turns out), but there are a million different ways to sport a cropped cut. In New York, where I now live, SO SO SO many women have long flowy hair, they all love to do the top bun head thing, and the pretty braids. I rarely get asked about my hair in NYC, which is fine, except to say that there's definitely a trend here that runs along the lines of what we see in magazines - longer is better, so it would appear to many! I can see why women are hesitant. Few articles are titled, "How to make your super short hair look cute day-to-night". That said, if it has to do with level of attractiveness to men - ummmm, please, don't make me say it. My theory that I've never said aloud: Men just want something to pull on. Sorry, but it's true. And I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, they can just go buy something to pull on at Babeland and appreciate the whole damn awesome package. Not to mention they see the same beauty images we do (in the media, magazines, etc.). That said, my boyfriend seems to be thoroughly disinterested in my desire for a new hair style...all the more reason to experiment! Emily, loving the length and the color...I'm kind of inspired.

  • sallieforrer

    I love this conversation! I've also always loved that article by Joan Juliet Buck. When I first cut my hair into a super short pixie I was in 5th grade. I probably did look like a little boy, but I also found out that I have a beautifully shaped head, and ever since I always felt a little bad about hiding my beautiful head under so much uninteresting hair! I'm always cutting off all my hair, then growing it out, then cutting it again. I do feel more feminine with long hair, which has it's bonuses. But I feel more elegant and honest with short hair.
    My husband, and most of the men in my life, think I look beautiful both ways. And I think most men who have witnessed a woman really blossom after cutting off all her hair would never think that she would look better with long hair.

  • daphne

    Why do we have to label people by their hair anyway? Why do we have to make assumptions about a person based on their grooming preferences?

    I'm a feminist. I hold a Master's degree in Social Psychology. I'm not dumb. Oh, and I date women sometimes.
    I happen to have long, flowing, extremely thick, beachy, tousled, frizzy, wavy hair. I would never cut it short but it's not because my hair is a security blanket or I'm trying to appeal to men. I would never cut it short because it simply does not work on my hair texture. The shorter I cut my hair, the more volume I get and I was the girl walking around high school with what people called "Christmas tree hair" (hair with so much volume, frizz and curl that it starts to brush other people as they walk by) The chop and the Emily's style will never work on me. I need weight in my hair and strategic layers. When I flat iron my hair and measure the circumference of all the hair pulled back, it's about the size of three dollar coins.

    One of my pet peeves is that people think I spend a lot of time in the mirror trying to curl my hair into my natural loose waves. They assume because my hair is categorized under the "Gisele Bundchen and Victoria's Secret" type, that I must be "dolling" up everyday. People ask me what products and tools I use to get the texture. Well, I get the right haircut for my hair texture and I don't style or do anything to my hair. I have no intention on appealing to men to trying to look "cooke cutter pretty" but I also didn't have the choice of having similar hair texture as Gisele Bundchen (who basically made thick, wavy hair a 'bombshell' thing).

  • Malya

    Four years ago, I was a single girl of 25 with a sudden yen for super short hair. My friends' reaction was uniformly "Don't do it. Men don't like short hair." My reaction to that was, "In that case, I'm definitely doing it!" About two months post pixie cut I met the man who would be my husband, who looooved my short hair. A few months into dating, he told me I was his dream girl, and that his online dating profile said, among other things, "If you've ever had short hair, you're my kind of girl." I think the lesson is that going with your aesthetic gut only makes a woman sexier and more apt to attract the kind of men/friends/vibes she wants to be surrounded by...

  • NapoleonIsAlwaysRight

    I loved the article! My thought is: Hair is hair - do what you want with it, then change it up! I have to admit when one of my friends has the same style for a decade, I have to wonder what's keeping them from trying something new. I mean you work long and hard for long flowing tresses, granted, but still. We are all chaning human beings, try something new. Maybe you'll hate it - it'll grow back. Personally, I like the versatility that comes with longer hair, but I think that may just be me being brainwashed by braids and updos. Isn't it possible that there's plenty of different styles one could explore with shorter lengths?
    Keep it moving, keep it changing, keep trying other things. Hair is fun.

  • Angela_E

    It's annoying that shorter hair is seen as "androgynous", "rebellious", "tomboyish" or attributed any other patronizing adjective that ultimately shifts the woman's haircut into the realm of masculinity and assigns to it a social message. And it's frustrating that a consideration of going shorter often means that women are compelled to have this entire self-conscious conversation with themselves over their physical expression of their gender. But there are some things in life that, as silly and inconsequential as they may seem, force you to confront your own confidence and comfort levels, of which living alone and short hair are surely two.

    • disqus_CbanJPpOR3

      What i personally dislike more than the gendering of haircuts is the way so many men talk about women with short haircuts as trying, but failing, to look attractive to men. That's the thing that always gets to me. I wouldn't mind it if it was just, "I'm not into women with short hair." Okay, fine. I'm not into men with spiked hair. No one's saying men MUST like short haircuts despite their personal dislike of short haircuts. What I don't like is when men think women get short haircuts in the attempt to appeal to mainstream social tastes--and thus, are actually tragic failures. That's the thing that gets to me: the assumption that women do things to please others and we're just failures if we don't please. It's like, well, a lot of women weren't even playing that game to begin with, so how can they fail? Maybe they're freaking awesome at pleasing their own aesthetic tastes? Maybe they all deserve a medal?

  • lynnsay

    Loved this post! I honestly wish I had the bravery, bone structure and poise to pull off short hair. It's weird how attached I am to my long hair though - I feel like it is my defining feature and without it I wouldn't be me.

    http://www.thesartorialscot.com

  • kate pelc

    "When women cut their hair short, they feel attractive, I think they’re saying, ‘I’m on my terms, I’m not letting typical male desires dictate my choices,’ and that’s intimidating as hell to a lot of men, because there are a lot of men out there who still are raised to think that they can tell women what to do."

    Thank you, Michael Angelo.

  • ElizabethGray

    My mother has had short hair since her highschool days in the 70's and she is the most adorable person ever. I grew up obsessed with Jean Seberg and the sound of music is my favorite movie (I still think Julie Andrews is the epitome of beauty and grace). It actually feels somewhat foreign to me that anyone might find the pixie cut to be anyhting but emmensly feminine. I have never felt the need to grow my hair out past about the shoulder mark and have considered making it totally cropped several times. Screw Ignorant Male, clearly he is a little confused. :) Beauty and sex-appeal are not about the hair, they're about the woman wearing it and how she feels in it. And who doesn't love a person who's happy in their own skin?

  • Nina

    For me, growing my hair long has been extremely satisfying and yes, liberating. I was always the girl with short hair up until my 20's. My mom used to think that was the only cut that suited me. Now that I've finally got the length I've desired for soooo long thanks to my amazing stylist, I couldn't dream of cutting it off no matter what fashion says. I LOVE the short look on many women, but oh how I also LOVE having long hair - taking care of it, brushing it, styling it, I just love how it looks with my bangs and natural strawberry blonde color. For me it's just so much more fun than short hair.

  • Serena

    I think this is perfect. I have kept my hair long for the past few years because I enjoyed the attention I got for it and because of my ex who loves long hair. Actually all of my guy friends do! But I have found from having a pixie cut from the age of 6 to 15, that a lot of times its not men, its women. I got picked on so much by girls in grade school for being 'different' with my short hair. Even harassed because they thought I might be gay. And when I tell my girlfriends that I want short hair they say 'oh but its so pretty!'. And I love long hair and I know women who really don't look as good with short as they do long hair. But I cant do it, too high maintenance, and too much like a curtain.

    What is really sexy is a smart and confident woman. Regardless of hair length.

    Also my hair is at its longest ever of two inchs below my shoulder and in a few weeks I am going to get it chopped a la Daria.

  • Aparnaa

    My mother always wanted me to cut my hair shorter... but I have very curly thick hair. So it would require lots of work, lots of layers, lots of... everything. I cut it to the collarbone about 5 months ago and just... so much work. And that's barely short. Nearly 3 inches later, I can wash, product, go - my hair grows fast, my stylist is amazing, and the cut grew out like a dream. But if I had hair like Daria's up there? Or Karlie's, or Emily's? Short in a second.

    And really, guys SAY they don't like short hair... but I remember a certain gentleman telling me that pre-haircut. And then I remember him gawping open mouthed and appreciatively (literally jaw dropped) when I showed up with a blown out lob that landed between my jaw and shoulder. It wasn't the straight - it was the short. Of course, the damage from constant blowouts was a pain in the rear...

  • disqus_CbanJPpOR3

    Honestly, the BEST thing about having short hair for me was losing a significant chunk of the male attention that I got with long hair. When I have long hair, the male attention is often overwhelming and oftentimes racist (I'm Asian--I once had a white man compliment my hair by telling me it reminded him of his wife's and that he'd once threatened to murder her if she ever thought about cutting it); and it often got in the way of my daily life. For example, I'd go to the grocery store, and I'd get yelled at by random men in the store or I'd go through a drive thru window and some guys would come up to my car and start talking to me. The worst ones would physically chase me across a store or lose their tempers if I didn't want to talk to them. Those are really the most terrifying situations.

    So yeah, I sometimes make beauty and style decisions specifically to deter male attention because I am just so sick of it (but then again, don't most women do that--isn't that why we sometimes choose to wear one dress over the other? isn't at least 50% of 'appropriateness' just a question of how sexy you look?). Not to mention, as a queer woman, I just can't stand it when people say to me, "BUT YOU'RE TOO PRETTY TO LIKE WOMEN." It's like a mortal sin if you're conventionally pretty AND batting for the other team to some men. In fact, I once got so sick of hearing unsolicited male opinions that I walked into MAC and told the store clerk, "I want something that will make me completely unattractive to men. I want to be utterly unkissable."

    I think the gendering of haircuts is ridiculous. The fact remains there's nothing inherently masculine or feminine about hair length. There have been many cultures where long hair is considered a gender-neutral trait. Hell, Samson, the manliest manly man in the Bible, had long hair. So the whole concept that women with short hair = masculine is social construct that's entirely unfounded in any hard science. What a woman with short hair in contemporary mainstream Western society really represents, I think, is a woman who is living in a society where the majority of straight men equate long hair with femininity and sexual availability and she's making the personal choice to not give a flying fuck about what nameless straight men she doesn't even know think in favor of what she wants to do with her own goddamn hair.

    And I have no idea why straight men wonder, "Why do women do things to their appearances that do not, in our opinion, look good?" Why do men wear pants with stains on them? Why do blonde men leave the house with flesh-colored beards? Why do some men spend 600 dollars on an Hermes tie that looks pretty much like every other tie on the market? Why can't we all just respect that this is what we want to do with our bodies, regardless of whether it makes sense to anyone else, and we no more want to give up our black lipstick or short haircuts than you want to give up your bizarrely printed lounge pants or obnoxious shoes?

  • thesixthbeatle

    I've had long hair and I've had short hair. The pixie cut made me feel like a pinhead, but a slightly longer short do worked. However, I think I am a long hair girl at heart. Long hair gives me options. Up, down, half up, half down..

  • vvn

    I see a lot of women cut their hair very short and even into pixie styles after they have kids. I'm pretty sure this has more to do with practicality than evolving their style. Not that being a mom isn't great (cuz moms ARE great!), and not that moms can't be glamourous too, but I think of short hair as a "mom cut" these days.

  • Swan

    I have had short hair (and I mean s h o r t) all my life apart from a time I remember as the "poodle episode". I have very dark, strong, thick, curly, glossy hair, so nothing wrong with the long hair in itself, but on my head - it just didn't work. It drowned my features. It just wasn't ME.

    And for me this is what good style should be about - being and expressing yourself. Finding yourself amongst the gazillion of possibilities out there. And I think, somebody who is doing that has a more than fair chance to look sexy and attractive and cool into the bargain.

    I play a lot with clothes and make-up, but I have had more or less the same haircut for 20 years now (training a little army of hairdressers how to do it) - I have never seen it on another person - I get a lot of compliments (even, bewilderingly, on what I regard as bad hair days).

    So, girls (and boys, for that), don't worry too much about feminine or masculine or what looks good on other people - do your own thing. I can't think of anything sexier than that :)

  • fairytalesandcoffee

    I was obsessed with short pixie hair because my oblong head with rounded square features could not pull it off. So I kept my hair long, never going above the shoulders until I decided to cut it to a very short bob, but ended up with a very asymmetrical butch cut that was similar to Rihanna's iconic chop but no where near as cool looking. I felt strong, powerful, and UGLY. But out of all the hair I have ever had, that super short boy cut (buzzed in the back, cropped at the sides and long in the front, was the FUNNEST hair I ever had. I still fantasize about going short like that not because it looked good on me (it didn't) but because I could no longer hide behind my hair and my hands were constantly in my hair ruffling it like feathers. The grow out perious was ROUGH though. MOST MEN HATE SHORT HAIR ON WOMEN. FACT. Clearly there is a strong psychological effect with long haired women when it involves men that I don't think I will truly understand unless I am a man.

    • Catherine Kuehl

      I'm not sure it's entirely psychological. It's just that in the last 20-25 years, men got used to seeing long hair on any woman labelled as "sexy." As an earlier post said, Marilyn Monroe had short hair. So did Sophia Loren in her early films. Certainly not unattractive or unfeminine.

  • FMP

    So glad I saw this post today! I'm shaving my head on Saturday for the St. Baldrick's Foundation, which raises money for pediatric cancer research. Looks like I'll be sporting the future manic pixie for awhile and I couldn't be more excited about rocking it out for such a great cause. Thanks for the great article, ITG!

  • caitlin

    man, i hate to simplify things but why must there always be a reason beyond our choices? especially with something like hair? that is the best part of being alive, we get to make choices about what we want to look like and what we want to show the world. beauty can come in so many different ways and i think if you feel confident, that will translate to everyone! it is not about doing something men(or women!) will like...it's about what you like. there is no need to have a reason or a revelation with a haircut. same goes for wearing makeup-it is not a moral issue people! DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY/PRETTY/SEXY/CHIC/FREE

  • http://youareashootingstar.blogspot.com/ Stacey Kelly

    hahaha this guy asked the question in the absolute best way possible! he's funny, i like his admission of ignorance. as a girl, i guess my opinion on this isn't really as relevant to the conversation but i always think these things are individual. for example leigh lezark with long hair? no way, can't imagine it. it's part of her edge, and i can't imagine a guy who wouldn't agree with that. daria is sort of a bronzed beach babe though. it's part of her aesthetic. i can see how guys would view short hair on her as sort of shocking and as having less of an appeal.

    so yeah, i agree with what you said. it's all about the individual.

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  • Hannah Cox

    only need two words to debunk the myth that women with short hair is universally un-sexy to me:

    HALLE. BERRY.

  • della

    interesting. you call on the "big guns" all of whom happen to be men, to get a final say on short hair. good effort though!

  • Elle

    Ironically, I get a lot more attention from guys with short hair. My hair is very curly and has a tendency to eat my face when it grows even chin-length. One day I thought, "this is the worst, my hair takes so much maintenance and doesn't even look that good", so I got a funky, asymmetrical pixie cut. I was even hoping to look a little more androgynous with it, as it's about the same length as my partner's short hair.

    Well, it turns out that what looks super masculine on him, looks SUPER "feminine" on me. They don't call it a pixie cut for nothing; they make you look like a pixie. All eyelashes, nose freckles, long neck and little exposed ears (you have to put sunscreen on these too!). I haven't looked more "girly" since I was about 5 years old (as my mum likes to remind me...). As a result, I find myself trying to dress in a more androgynous way and I've stopped grooming my eyebrows, to detract from it all. But, to little avail.

    The lesson of this story: my hair does look way better now, and actually kinda glamorous (something that it NEVER was even close to). Of course, everyone suits something different, and one rule cannot apply to all. But my experience suggests that looking ratty with unkempt, naturally dreading hair is the only real way to avoid the male gaze.

  • Kaelani

    I think that it's ultimately about whatever makes you feel sexy, and that confidence will translate and make you look sexier. However, I understand if some women need male (or female) affirmation to feel sexy (after all, that's ultimately who you are trying to attract, right?). But if a guy likes you for your hair then he's got the wrong priorities (or a fetish)...Dr. Seuss put it best when he said "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind".

    Truthfully I knew that a pixie wouldn't suit me but I did it anyway... And while I cringe every time my mom questions my sexuality, or when I get asked if I'm on the softball team, I don't regret it. It's a kind of liberation that I think young women my age should all experience. Anyway my dad says I look beautiful, as does the stylish gay kid in my dorm, and their opinions weigh more than most.

  • Shara

    Sorry if someone already posted a similar comment, but here goes:

    Is "short hair = chic, strong, independent" is GRADUALLY becoming the new "slim / slender = hot, attractive, sexy"?

    I think everyone is different. Some people look better with short hair, some look better with long hair. Sadly with this hair-chopping trend, I feel like having short hair has been so glorified ("It's chic! It's liberating! It's not giving a damn!") that it has come to a point where some girls are cutting their hair just because it's the cool thing to do. They have this mindset that if they have short hair they're hip. They might not even necessarily look better, but they just think they do that's what the media says.

    Still, on the other hand I think if it makes you feel good about yourself, why not? Not everything has to be so precise. Not everything has to be about "Which suits me best?" It can and (to a certain degree) should be about "Which makes me feel better?" Just don't do it for the wrong reasons.

    Also, long hair DOES NOT always equal shallow and boring, guys.

  • Anina

    Personally in not really into the pixie cut. But I just got my hair cut a little beneath the chin (longer on the front, shorter on the back). It's kind of a boyish crop. I have received a lot of compliments, both from girls and boys. Before i had pretty long hair and it's also very think. But there was noting sort of sexy about it. Just like Jimmy Paul says, like a curtain. My current haircut frames my face a lot better and exposes my neck.

  • joannanyc

    When I was 19, I was tired of getting a lot of attention, so I cut it all off and buzzed it. Ended up having short hair through most of my 20s, grew it out for my wedding, cut it again.

    Somewhere along the way started to want to have long(ish) hair again and now it looks more like the photo on the right (is that Daria?). I like being able to pull it back now, plus I associate short hair with "old" (my mom has always had short hair).

    This pic is me at 20. I don't have any desire to cut it now though ;-)

  • joannanyc

    As for "Ignorant Male," his question seems to boil down to "why don't these women want to 'look good' in a way that conforms with my understanding of 'looking good?'" and I think we all know the answer to that one already.

    • Catherine Kuehl

      We have a winner! :)

  • Michelle Wang

    That article from Vogue is sublime.
    I chopped my locks off in the recent (Southern Hemisphere) summer,
    something I had been thinking about doing for a while, but it ended up happening on the spur of the moment.
    I just felt like doing something radical, but it wasn't that major I guess.
    But then friends would say to me 'oh you're so brave, I could never do that, so emancipated, I don't have the bone structure like you do..etc.'
    What bone structure? I'm a flat faced asian!
    So short hair really is transformative. You always feel exposed. Sometimes I feel like it requires more styling than when I had long hair- can't just scrape it into a pony anymore.
    But then you also feel liberated. Everything you wear starts to look different. You work out more interesting looks to go with the do. You're channelling new vibes. You just feel 'different' and other people see you like that too.
    And that vogue article was just sublime. I'm inspired to keep it short now.
    But one downfall: it's impossible to make a bob look good when you exercise.

  • Michelle Wang

    Following on from my comment, here's what I did with my new hair the day after it got the chop; I had shunned headbands since year 8, but it had a revelatory new effect with short hair! ::

    http://salutmarinnn.blogspot.com.au/2013/01/just-saturday.html

  • http://teawithtran.tumblr.com/ Tran Ta

    I cut off 5 inches of hair yesterday and now have a long bob. I love it so much! It suits my face structure much more. People should do whatever makes them feel more beautiful and confident. Confidence, not hair, makes a woman sexy. Marilyn Monroe, sex symbol, did not have long hair. http://teawithtran.tumblr.com

  • hadley

    I have a pixie cut and have for about 3 years now. I am 24, single, and straight. I have had numerous men ask me at the bar if i was a lesbian and have had guys text me to ask me when I am growing my hair out, they are "joking", but clearly men do prefer longer hair. It is rare when a male will comment on liking my short hair. I find short hair flatter my face more but am considering growing the pixie into a bob since it has been a while and I am always looking to change the style.

  • Lana Nasser

    What the Ignorant Male said should not have him killed. Its not that is he right, he has stated, repeatedly, that he does not know anything specifically, and he is asking questions. He is not stating that what he is saying is the ultimate truth, he is stating that this is what he and people who he's spoken with think. With that said, don't kill him! I'm glad he is willing to be enlightened by others. He just has a different opinion.

  • Vivian

    The truest thing I read in this post, for me, was "there is a short hair type and a long hair type." When I was 12, for no particular reason, I asked my mother to cut my long hair straight across at chin level, and I went down to the beach and sat there and felt fabulous. I've been a short-hair girl ever since, and I'm 49. Many times I have tried to grow my hair, and every time I have felt dowdy and VERY un-like me. My best friend is my sister who is an extreme long-hair type - at 50+, hair almost to her ass. It's never been about what men want. My husband would love me to be blond, 30, barefoot, and forever in worn-in Levis. Too bad, my man. There you have it. Do what suits you.

  • seilens

    I find that overall, guys don't comment on the length of my hair or super sharp asymmetrical cut of my bob. The girls do. The guys are more interested in what color my hair is and like to tell me they preferred me with pink hair or red hair or that I should try black or some other dark color next. Currently I'm platinum (before that it was pink, reddish, purple, long platinum with mulit-color extensions, and long red hair, and many more variations).

  • Camille

    Others may have mentioned it already, but Audrey Hepburn gets her hair cut in Roman Holiday and Sabrina, not Funny Face. In Funny Face, it's just worn up.

  • Minimum Mouse

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  • RJ

    Short hair "intimidating"? What nonsense. Women with short haircuts look very approachable, and anything but intimidating. Some of us simply aren't as attracted to short hair. There really is nothing better than a woman's flowing locks caressing a man's body. Now THAT thought is something that may make a guy quiver.

  • Jo B

    I really appreciate this article -- specifically the last segment. I have long lived under the "what men want" mentality and have kept my hair long. I've always felt guilty when going shorter -- feeling unattractive and unfeminine. Currently, I have a pixie cut and believe it looks good and makes me look thinner. However, my hubby prefers longer hair but is happy that I'm happy with my hair. This article has given me a newly found confidence to stay short!

  • LR

    But guys aren't intimidated by the bob and medium length as much as the wavy long cut. The wavy long cut sometimes is seen as slutty and intimidating, especially when it is thick. I get a lot of pressure from others including my own guy to cut my hair bob or medium length when long flatters minimizes my wide shoulders.

  • Heather

    I got the pixie when I was 20, then again at 23 and 25. I still had guys hitting on me. The number goes down, but the overall quality goes up. Most of these guys were themselves fairly stylish. Unless you've chopped your hair off because you don't care anymore, having a pixie cut makes you very conscious about looking feminine. Makeup, earrings, and dresses become almost requisite. You can't just wear sweatpants and a tshirt and assume everyone will know you're a girl

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